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New Parents-How to Cope

Updated: Jan 10

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The arrival of a baby is a heartwarming and delightful occasion, but there are plenty of changes parents must get used to in the months ahead. Read on to find out how to cope with these changes.

1. Adapting to Change:

Having a new baby is almost comparable to travelling to a new foreign country where you don't speak the language. There are so many changes to make in the way you react, think and even plan for your next day.

One new mother suggested to her husband they go to see a movie. They both put their coats on and met at the front door, looked at each other and started to laugh. Their three-week-old newborn was sleeping silently in her crib, and they hadn't even thought about getting a babysitter!

That was an "aha moment" that pointed to countless changes they would make in their lifestyle and in their thinking in the days ahead.

New mothers have to learn to handle the responsibility of nursing their baby. First-time fathers will want to gain and demonstrate awareness in how they help out, show empathy and support for a new mothers' tender but very real worries for this tiny helpless infant.

Together, both mother and father should recognize they will both need to adapt, not only to their child but to find new strategies to take care of themselves. It is both exhilarating and nerve-wracking for both, and it does take some time to come to terms with the changed situation.

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. And so in you the child your mother lives on and through your family continues to live… so at this time look after yourself and your family, as you would your mother, for through you all she will truly never die.” – Osho

Be patient with yourself. Take the credit you have earned and think about just how close mothers have to get to death, to bring a new life into the world.

Be Persistent

Life is not so much what you accomplish as what you overcome.

A new babe does change everything, and your to-do list has never been longer. But when you feel too overwhelmed to take another step or make another decision, consider asking a friend who has already gone through what you and your partner are now experiencing, for help and needed advice

“The excuse of I don’t know how becomes a choice when you never ask anyone to help you find out how.”

— Michelle A. Homme

Asking for help when you need it is important because it will make your life easier. This fear of asking for help is restraining but you can fix it!

Why Do We Fear Asking for Help?

We all have negative thoughts that shape our choices and affect our lives. Studies prove that there are a number of reasons why we do not ask for help when we really should. Read through the following list to see if one or more apply to you.

Reasons Why I Cannot Ask for Help:

* Afraid I'll be rejected

* Fear people will see me as weak

* Feelings of shame and guilt and I don't want to be a bother to others

* I worry that I will have to reciprocate

Confident People Do Not Hesitate

“Ask for help not because you’re weak, but because you want to remain strong.” -Les Brown World Famous Motivational Speaker

Asking for help is a sign of being strong, humble and respectful.

After thinking about it, trying to do everything and thinking you should have been born knowing everything, is not really reasonable. Other people we know will have skills that are better than ours.

Most new moms feel exhausted after coming home from the hospital with a new baby, and the responsibilities to keep this squirming bundle alive can even be terrifying, if mom is already played.

“The excuse of ‘I don’t know how’ becomes a choice when you never ask anyone to help you find out how.”

— Michelle A. Homme

Asking for other’s input helps you see what you may not be able to see.

It’s always valuable to check your ego and ask for help.

As new parents don't hesitate to ask for a hand or for advice from others. Friends and family are only too willing to help.